There is an interesting conversation going on at the Abortion.com Facebook page.
It seems like every other day, a pro-lifer comes on shouts “ABORTION IS MURDER!” Real simple and to the point. Nothing about how we can all work together to reduce the need for abortion. Nope, just a plain ole “ABORTION IS MURDER!” In response, the pro-choicers will say that “murder” is a legal term as defined by the state legislatures and that, if abortion were “murder,” then it would be against the law.
I’m not going to haggle about how one defines abortion. I personally acknowledge that abortion is a form of killing. Something is alive in the woman’s body, she goes to the clinic and that something is gone. How you define that act is up to you.
What I want to talk about is how some pro-life people can be so mean-spirited. Yes, there are many out there that are well-intentioned, that actually adopt children or volunteer at the local homeless shelter. They are to be commended. But then there are the mean ones.
Imagine the woman who has just learned she is pregnant and has decided to have an abortion. She is not feeling good about things. Her whole life has flashed before her. She knows that, if she did not have an abortion, she would give birth to a child. She thinks about those possibilities with some hope, but ultimately decides it is not time. She is either too young or does not have the resources to bring a child into this world, so she decides to have an abortion. She nervously picks up the phone and calls a clinic for an appointment. She arranges to take the day off from work, giving her employer some lame excuse.
On the day of her appointment, she drives to the clinic. She is probably accompanied by her husband, boyfriend or a family member. As she drives up, she sees a bunch of people in front of the building waving signs and shouting. At first, she is not sure what they are doing but as she focuses she realizes they may be anti-abortion protestors. The pictures of the bloody fetuses confirm her suspicions.
She parks her car and as she walks to the front door of the clinic she hears people in the group shouting “Don’t Kill Your Baby!” or “Choose Life, not Death!” Then someone yells out at the top of her lungs: “Murderer!”
The pro-life movement is quick to claim that they have God or Jesus on their side. The Bible says this, the Bible says that. God says you will burn in Hell if you have an abortion.
But if Jesus really was pro-life, would he really go down to the local abortion clinic on a Saturday morning and stand outside screaming at women? Can you imagine Jesus yelling “Murderer?” Would he really try to embarrass this woman who is already in a very difficult emotional situation?
There is something very mean-spirited about the use of these words. Oh, sure, a pro-lifer would say that “we need to tell the woman the truth.” Well, earth to the pro-life movement: women know the truth. They know they have a living organism in their body and they have made the extremely difficult decision to “kill” it, to abort it, or even, yes, “murder” it. How she defines that act is her decision.
So, why stand outside of a clinic on a Saturday morning (don’t these folks have kids with Little League games or Girl Scout meetings?) and scream at a woman as she enters a clinic in an already emotional state? Why make things even more difficult for her? Why be so mean?
WWJD?

April 3, 2010 at 8:50 am
Pat, it is because they are aborticentric. Aborticentrism is a fixation on fetal life so overpowering as to preclude care for human life; Google it to get the whole picture.
The underlying factor is a fear of death. Ernest Becker in his book Denial of Death pointed out that humans unfortunately are intelligent enough to contemplate the reality and significance of their mortality. Since none of us wants to die, Becker said, we come up with strategies that help us avoid being paralyzed with the terror that knowledge brings: religions, philosophies, hedonistic abandonment and so on.
Aborticentrism posits that so-called “pro-lifers,” despite manifesting outward religiosity, are actually unable to accept the comfort that their religious belief ought to provide– in a phrase, they can’t really believe that God likes them that much. Psychiatrist Alice Miller has an explanation for it: abusive child-rearing practices used by their parents. An earthly explanation for a spiritual hangup.
Since they cannot accept that God really loves them and will give them life eternal with Him in Heaven, they seek proof of transcendency over death in this life. How? By being a hero.
And by choosing to “rescue” an entity which they claim is favored by God, innocent, without stain, etc., they strive to be the “hero” for “somebody” that embodies what they would like society to see in themselves. In other words, they are engaged in an allegorical struggle for their own salvation.
The more spiritually insecure the so-called “pro-life” demonstrator, the more extreme his tactics will be; it’s just that important to him that he receive confirmation in the here and now that he will arrive in the sweet bye-and-bye. Hence, the screams of “Murderer!”
cg
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April 3, 2010 at 7:33 pm
I’m not quick to claim anything. I just don’t think some people should be allowed to kill others.
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April 5, 2010 at 6:27 am
John, a fetus is humanoid in form, but not human. We lazily like to endow it with humanity from the moment of conception, because it saves us so much worry about being afflicted lifelong with handicaps. For example, if it is going to be a spina bifida baby, it will have suffered that condtion aroung the 14th day after conception.
“She’s having a baby; how nice!” we exclaim, not wanting to worry about whether her mindset is going to change over the next eighteen years and nine months. And we agonize over the news account of the traffic accident: “Killed in the crash was a pregnant woman…”
In short, we are conditioned to believe that a fetus is a human who will, if just left alone, turn out to be the discoverer of the long-awaited universal pharmalogical. In reality, the fetus is an organism just as likely to employ its hominid powers to satsfy its needs at the expense of mankind– UNLESS other humans endow it with the special status of human and sacrifice their time, energy and substance to guide its development well. Absent that, you are not talking about “some people killing others;” you are talking about the equivalent of frying an egg or cooking a lobster. (yeah, now I just gave you an excuse to rant about false equivalency…)
If you are as passionate about real humans as you hint you are about the fetus, I hope you are doing what you can to get the US out of its present killing fields, Iraq, Afghanistan and Pakistan.
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April 5, 2010 at 2:54 pm
WWJD? Better yet What is he doing right now???
I desperately want to believe that someone is watching over us and that everything will be fine if I just believe. Unfortunately life is not like that and we can not base our lives on what someone would do. How about we just do what is correct for us as long as we don’t harm one another and only worry about our own business.
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April 5, 2010 at 4:14 pm
I agree, anonymous, I want to believe as well. I guess I’m more of an agnostic than an atheist. What really gets to me is some of my Christian friends tell me I can’t go to heaven unless I accept Christ. I’m a pretty good person, commit a sin here or there but have done a lot of good things. So, I”m going to hell? Doesn’t seem right….Of course, on my deathbed I will convert very quickly just to cover my ass…
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April 14, 2010 at 6:56 am
Charles, your post here could have been written by a pro-slavery person 180 years ago or a pro-Holocaust person 80 years ago.
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April 14, 2010 at 3:07 pm
John, nobody in his right mind can draw a valid equivalency between a human and a pre-human. You’ll have to re-cast your objection.
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April 14, 2010 at 6:23 pm
Here’s a recast: you call someone “pre-human” before she’s born because you want to keep it legal to kill her. The Nazis used a similar term for people they wanted to kill — untermenschlich (sub-human).
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April 15, 2010 at 3:50 pm
Doesn’t work, John, for this reason: “pre-human” indicates a hominid in a working elevator which will take him to a higher level. “sub-human” indicates the elevator is broken. Try again.
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