Gamers know this. Enter an alternate universe and they know that sometimes everyone has an evil twin. Or, as Carl Jung claimed, everyone has a shadow side, the primitive, irrational and dark aspect of the self. The shadow exists for otherwise goodies to be baddies. According to Jung, the shadow is prone to projection, turning a personal inferiority into a perceived moral deficiency in someone else. But, you might ask, what is the connection of the shadow self with abortion? Simple. Walk amongst most anti abortion activists, heretofore known as protesters, and you will cross into their alternate reality. Unlike gamers who are critical thinkers, these folks demonstrate primitive, irrational thinking and project their darkness and moral deficiencies on those outside their small universe.
First, most protesters succumb to primitive fears and hate. As a matter of survival, their fear and hate of what they do not understand leads them to embrace radical and destructive ideologies. Nowhere is there more evidence of this radical and destructive thinking than in the war against women being carried out across the United States. Rather than understand that women hold up half the sky, have full rights to bodily integrity, and have full rights as a citizen, they enthusiastically release their primitive hate to wage a bloody battle against abortion, abortion providers, and contraception, mostly impacting poor and minority women.
Second, from the churches to the likes of David Reardon and Priscilla Coleman, from the rarefied bluster of Frank Pavone to the pontifications of Troy Newman, these folks perpetuate an anti science, anti medicine campaign that would make Goebbels blush. Their web sites, posters and their ‘literature’ are replete with misinformation, untruths and cheap scare tactics. For example, post-abortion stress syndrome, PASS, is an attempt to illustrate that legal abortions expose women emotional trauma, often resulting in lifelong regret and depression. Yet, credible researchers from reputable institutions disprove every one of the Herculean efforts of Coleman and Reardon to argue that PASS exists. In a parallel claim, made from outliers, such as Joel Brind, argue that there is a dangerous correlation between abortion and breast cancer. However, the National Institute of Health, the National Cancer Institute and the American Cancer Society and legions of trustworthy researchers continue to find no connection.
Third, and most devastatingly obvious, is that rather than focus on imaginary things, folks in this universe would do well to cross back over to reality. Why not focus on why women don’t have the material or social support they need to continue pregnancies they might not want to end? I’m not talking about throwing diapers and baby showers at women or offering to buy them a winter coat. Rather than preying upon the emotions of women at a vulnerable time, you could offer measures that ensure a safe and comfortable home, transportation, health care, education, childcare and a fulfilling job—at least until she is on her feet. And for women who know that abortion is their only option, rather than project your moral inferiority on them, why not show some respect? Why not offer a bit of compassion instead of judgment? In other words, rather than standing outside abortion clinics as the pillar of darkness, why not as a beacon of light and compassion?


March 20, 2012 at 2:52 pm
”The act of abortion positions women at their most powerful, and that’s why it is so strongly opposed by so many in society.” Merle Hoffman
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March 27, 2012 at 11:17 am
Anti Abortion people never seem to understand the basics of science or its methods . . .
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March 20, 2012 at 7:31 pm
Without once mentioning aborticentrism! Pat, you’re a marvel!!!
If the mainstream media would only pick up on what you have just written, the dysfunctional self-help movement which calls itself “pro-life” would be dead in a month…
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March 21, 2012 at 1:12 pm
Pat didn’t write this article
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March 21, 2012 at 1:27 pm
I know my friend kate’s writing when i see it.
She has a style that is uniquely her own and provokes thought in a way that is just as unique.
I will reply later to this entry.
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March 21, 2012 at 4:02 am
Kate Ranieri again on the abortion.ws blog. Deja vu all over again – we prolife activists are a miserable scurvy lot. Kate picked this up from Chuckles – “I can help kill as many people as I want because those trying to stop me are so nasty.” That was Chuck’s third “pro-choice” argument; the others were equally absurd. Poor Kate. Gets old fast so I’ll stop reading her stuff (thanks anyway Mel).
But before I go I have to add this: Can’t speak for all prolifers Chuckles and Kate malign but as for myself they got it all wrong. I’m dashing, reasonable, loving, law-abiding, quiet, and compassionate. OK, so I am on the wrong side of thirty-five, but I’m still quite the guy.
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March 21, 2012 at 7:21 am
You may be dashing, John, but are you really quiet? Haven’t I seen films of you kinda yelling at patients as they enter the facility?
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March 21, 2012 at 7:59 am
Reasonable, rational? According to Dunkle he burned an American Flag to celebrate a convicted murderer.
That is not reasonable or rational, it is just scary.
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February 10, 2014 at 9:56 am
i has question. if they were to have kids, would sydtacine move to america, or would kate move to britain? also, would theyre kids have an english, or american accent? hmmmmmmm?
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March 22, 2012 at 5:09 pm
Great article. If I may I would like to repost on my pro choice site if that is OK. I’ll give the original URL.
This monstrosity that harnesses women is sickening.
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March 22, 2012 at 7:11 pm
seth, the author, kate, is a brilliant writer!
her entries always provoke a great deal of thought. being an anti, sometimes the thoughts that they provoke are quite disturbing because i am forced to confront the weak points in my camp.
but ultimately, i am grateful for that because it serves to make me stronger in being actually pro-life, instead of just another anti.
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March 21, 2012 at 1:07 pm
the insanity of many contrive both good and bad facts on both sides, but it is in this insanity that people take it too far.
Thank you pat for refferencing, or rather questioning, the Cause, not the problems that arise from peoples moral standings. Suck it up people and understand that some people cant make these choices well, and that badgering people out infront of some place is wrong i hate people like this.
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March 22, 2012 at 5:13 pm
The badgering is abuse in my opinion. It should be illegal to yell in someone’s ear as they are going in for a private medical exam.
There are so many laws on medical privacy, why do these anti abortion Jerk offs get away with this nonsense?
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March 22, 2012 at 3:04 pm
in reference to PASS, i see errors in both camps.
the term was created by certain antis as part of a political agenda. those same people scream at those entering clinics warning them that they will regret it forever. i suggest that it is wishful thinking on their parts.
the fact that some have adverse effects from their experience with abortion is downplayed or outright denied by certain choicers. those are the same people who chant “i trust women!”, but proceed to demean women who later state that they regret the choice they made.
the truth is that each person’s experience affects them differently from each other person’s experience affects them.
the aforementioned antis and choicers are far more concerned with their agendas than with the actual people themselves.
an experience with abortion might have devastating effects or none at all. and regardless of what some say, it can affect men as well.
i have seen people list studies saying this, and studies saying that.
i have seen people say they regret their experience and some say they don’t. i have also seen others who disagree with their stance, abuse them for saying what they say, and demand that they justify how they feel about their experience when the truth is that it takes a lot of courage, regardless of one’s stance, to come forward and speak of their experience.
i am personally more concerned that people walk away from their experience unwounded, and that if they do have wounds, that they get the healing that is available to them, than anything else.
so while that experience can create adverse affects, there is nothing new under the sun. there is no need to create a new name for every traumatic experience. it is all a form of shellshock.
my own experience was crushing, but god help me, here i am finally having moved on.
by the same token, i am nobody’s political agenda.
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March 22, 2012 at 3:06 pm
>>> Why not focus on why women don’t have the material or social support they need to continue pregnancies they might not want to end? <<<
oh kate…. you are my hero
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March 22, 2012 at 3:09 pm
>>>>Why not offer a bit of compassion instead of judgment? In other words, rather than standing outside abortion clinics as the pillar of darkness, why not as a beacon of light and compassion?<<<<
again, you are my hero.
the abortion isn't the illness, it is a symptom.
if someone's life is broken, the abortion in and of itself won't fix it. these people need help, not condemnation.
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February 9, 2014 at 5:40 am
Hey Amara,I know its not the best way to contact you but coludn’t find an email address or contact form.I am writing to inquire if you would be interested in writing for an upcoming online only magazine. It will be all about Pakistani art, culture and lifestyle and we would be delighted if you can write about the fashion scene in Pakistan.Let me know if that interests you even a slight bit and I can provide you some more details.Thanks
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March 23, 2012 at 6:20 am
I appreciate Rogelio’s response to PASS and the nature of how it was constructed as a political propaganda piece (not his words). In an effort to write a concise post, reams are reduced to bytes. Perhaps, I should have offered more details from reputable researchers. Nonetheless, I would agree that there will always be regret in a person’s life. How that person negotiates the regret can and will differ from a dull, gnawing regret to a burning inferno of excruciating regret.
But regret is not a psychological syndrome using established medical and psychological criteria. What has been established, using recognized, rigorous methodologies (something missing in the Reardon, Colesman, Rue, Brind work), is that women who have post abortion psychological sequelae are more often those who have pre-existing mental health problems.
And as I write these comments, it occurs to me that it would be interesting to research if pre-existing emotional health problems correlate with post partum depression or psychosis. I know a woman who became pregnant at age 19. She wanted to keep her baby but her mother forced her to give up her baby because it would shame the family to have a child out of wedlock. Following the gut-wrenching separation of mother and child, this woman spiraled downward into a really dark and deep depression that nearly ruined her physically and emotionally. Another woman had hyperemesis gravadurum that was so acute, she had to be hospitalized. What the physicians suggested was she did not want to be pregnant such that she became dehydrated and in an electrolye imbalance from nausea and vomiting–almost a symbolic attempt to get rid of the pregnancy. Then there are the headline tragedies of women with severe post partum depression who kill their children. All very complex issues that are not easily boxed into a tidy label.
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March 23, 2012 at 6:41 pm
i think too often, we try to put people into boxes that they might not fit in.
i know lifers who have had abortions with little emotional turmoil, and i know choicers who had a hard time dealing with it.
i also think that there are more people who suffer after an abortion than many choicers want to admit to, and i think that there are more women who gave birth and regret it than most lifers wish to admit to.
i also think that many people coerce women into either abortion or birth and are unaware that they are doing it.
many people will suffer silently about what their secret pain is.
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February 10, 2014 at 6:12 am
Teri Grimes – I love what you did! You told a story with your photos. This is beaufitul! I love that you put music to it. I didn’t cry at the wedding, but I cried looking at this. Thank you, Shannon. You are very gifted.
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March 23, 2012 at 12:31 pm
Yes Kate but it is the complexity of some of these cases that the anti-aborts, use to disban our credibility as good whole hearted people.
They think that because something happened, in our lives, our body systems, our checkbooks, that caused us to have an abortion that we are hell-bent souls that are completely corrupted. what can we do to fix our names Kate? And to stop This PAIN?
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March 23, 2012 at 3:42 pm
Having had an abortion does not make someone a bad person.
And if one is having trouble coming to terms with it, there is incredible healing available.
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March 23, 2012 at 8:44 pm
Kathy,
I have to admit that I’m not clear about two things that you write:
1. While I admit that dealing with an unplanned pregnancy is utterly complex, I also have to declare that anti aborts cannot and will not deal with complexities. Their world is one of absolutes–right/wrong, black/white, good/bad. Any nuance, subltlety, or gray area creates too much stress. Better to deal with absolutes. Like light switches, these anti aborts cannot or will not (or both) handle complexities.
2. Second, I’m really missing something. What are you asking when you write, “what can we do to fix our names Kate? And to stop This PAIN?” What do you mean by “our names” and this “PAIN”?
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March 24, 2012 at 12:57 pm
kathy, do you need a friend?
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March 24, 2012 at 2:14 pm
Yes, Kathy, are you in pain and in need of a friend, or someone to help you sort things out in your life?
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March 24, 2012 at 9:06 am
There is no doubt conservatives live in an alternate reality.
It is funny on one of the comedy shows, I think Bill Maher? He talk to a conservative that lives in a bubble.
Check it out its really funny.
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March 24, 2012 at 12:36 pm
I have seen protesters at Doctor’s offices annoying women.
I think these people are disgusting. Protesting by screaming at a women and getting in her face while she goes to a private medical appointment is horrible.
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March 24, 2012 at 4:55 pm
They do it because they can get away with it, Cindy. Like the Germans who were given governmental permission to hate the Jews, they are using abortion as a way to purge all their bad feelings about themselves. For them, being a so-called “pro-lifer” is to engage in a dysfunctional self-help program.
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March 24, 2012 at 5:10 pm
Cindy, while I would agree with you that screaming at women is horrible, they see what they do as something other than horrible. In their reality, it’s more important to publicly demonstrate that they are christians, that they are speaking out against abortion and that they offer help (or their piece-meal version of help). Of course, there are a few who really devote their lives to becoming lifelong, compassionate friends—unlike those who toss a few crumbs and praise themselves at the end of the day or those rabid dudes who are paid to protest.
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March 25, 2012 at 8:12 am
There are anti abortion braggarts who brazenly assume their moral superiority by judging others, shaming others.For some of the picketers, they intentionally choose to bully women with myriad forms of shame and terror. Choosing to promote their version of hope and help, they yell, they taunt and they do so ‘in the name of jesus’ or some other iconic figure. And then they say hate-filled things, in the name of Jesus, of course, like “Shame on you” or “The blood of that child is on your hands” or “God will ask you why you killed my children” or “The Lord put that child there” or “How can you murder your own child?” or “Abortion will haunt you at night” or “Your baby is going to look like road kill. Remember your baby every time you see road kill.”
It’s a warped version of Christianity, compassion and hope.
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March 26, 2012 at 9:20 am
Amazing . . .
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/03/25/arlen-specter-gop-women-life-among-the-cannibals_n_1378308.html
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March 27, 2012 at 11:19 am
Great article.
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